Always ignore "after sex"? You missed the best opportunity to enhance your relationship!

Recently, a friend confided in me that her relationship with her partner has entered a "burnout period."

"After being together for a long time, the frequency of chatting with each other has become less and less. After all, we are very busy at work. When I get home, I just want to rest. It is no longer like when you are in love and you can't finish talking. Sometimes you don't know what to say when you are together... "

While burnout may be inevitable, that doesn’t mean we can only allow ourselves and our partners to stay in this low state.
So, is there any way to enhance the intimacy between partners, enhance emotional communication between the two parties, and relive the feeling of being in love?

The answer is: yes! And it's not difficult! That is to find a time when each other can open up and communicate well. In today’s article, we want to provide a common, private, conducive to emotional warming, but often ignored time period.

The time period that can best enhance the relationship between partners may be After Sex.

Some friends may be wondering: After sex, everything is over, what else can you do? Is it possible that there should be a review?
Yes, but not entirely yes.

The reason why after sex is important is because you can have pillow talk. "Pillow talk is an intimate, honest, and unguarded conversation between partners."

Pillow talk occurs when both parties are still in bed after sex. It is the afterglow of sex and "the happy period of physical and mental relaxation after orgasm." ​

Pillow talk usually does not involve eye contact, which allows us to talk more naturally without being interfered by other information (such as eyes, body movements, etc.). If the lights in the room are relatively dim, both parties can better focus on the content of the conversation. In turn, we are able to have deeper conversations without self-censorship.

Studies have found that after sexual activity, individuals have an increase in oxytocin. Oxytocin not only reduces aggressive behavior and relieves stress, it also increases nonverbal affection, trust, and social acceptance.

Psychology suggests that the sense of close connection brought about by sex, as well as the sense of comfort, security and trust brought by the release of oxytocin, may offset the risks of expressing feelings and bring more possibilities for self-expression.

Therefore, this unique state can provide a safe haven for partners to share their secrets.
Since after sex is a comfortable, tender, trusting and safe time, which is very suitable for communication and enhancing the relationship between partners, what topics can be discussed during this time?
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In bed, of course you can talk about "sex"

In the book Magnificent Sex, researchers interviewed many couples who had high-quality sex lives. Almost all of them believed that "talking about it afterwards" was the key to having high-quality sex lives.

Talking about sex itself can allow both parties to have a deeper understanding of each other's bodies, what parts are effective and what are not during sex, and try to avoid things that ruin the atmosphere from happening again.
After all, in a long-term relationship, constantly improving the quality of your sex life is key to keeping the relationship alive.

Pillow whisper moments can lead to a more loving sex life in three steps.

1. Sure! Express the satisfying aspects of the sexual experience and let the other person know how good you are at kissing or how great you are in some area. It can also be used with some props, such as collars, whips, handcuffs, etc. When you acknowledge your partner's efforts to please you, your partner will have more positive feelings and be more motivated to maintain those good parts and try to improve them further.

2. Positive emotional expression. Express your strong love for your partner and compliment them on their beauty and sensuality during sex. "I really love you" and "You look sexy when you sweat." These sincere compliments will bring you closer and increase your intimacy.

3. Discuss mutual sexual satisfaction! Discuss what is satisfying and worth keeping during sex and what can be adjusted. Research has found that partners who talk more about sexual satisfaction have higher-quality sex lives. Try opening with "How did you feel about just now?" to review the sexual experience with your partner. You can also express what new positions you are looking forward to trying next time and what special "sexual fantasies" you have.

When we have a clearer understanding of each other's preferences, both of us will be able to enjoy the sexual intimacy of our relationship more, and our relationship satisfaction will increase.